Just my 2¢...
Nearly all of the automatic-with-shifter transmissions suck, except for the double clutch ones which are on highly expensive cars (M3, GT-R). And while the fancy DCT cars might technically shift faster, some argue they just aren't the same as a proper 3-pedal car and don't give the same experience.

I, like others, think you're going about this in the wrong order: Teach Roberta to drive a manual, THEN have her try an autocross. Preferably the Novice School or Chick School. Driving a stick is a useful life skill, and you never know when it might come in handy. Plus it gives more of a connection between driver and car, and engages the driver more thus making them more attentive and hopefully a safer driver. I know she's smart and has finely-tuned hand-eye coordination being a gamer, so I'm sure it wouldn't take her long to pick it up.
As for getting a new car with better gas mileage and more headroom, I totally understand that.

A WRX/STi or Lancer EVO would be good choices for practicality, reliability, interior room (4 seats), and good handling & power. I'd say anything Japanese, three pedals, and not WRD (Wrong-Wheel-Drive, aka FWD) would be a good choice.

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